If you’ve read my posts here before you’d probably believe that I have trouble writing posts here sometimes. The biggest problem is that inspiration doesn’t always hit me squarely. So instead of writing about what I think I should (or what Meg helpfully suggested,) I end up writing something that just hits me that day. Luckily it appears I’ve been doing okay. Perhaps if I increase my writing frequency inspiration will treat me better.
So today’s post is about love, religion and “charity.” Don’t worry it’s not as weighty of topics as it seems.
What seems like a very long time ago, my friend Cathy told me what she believed were good indicators of a healthy love. She explained that she believed (and I’m sure she told me the source of this information, but I have since forgotten) that if you were in love, that love would do the following two things. 1. Cause you to have more time in your life, and 2. Cause you to share that love with everyone you encounter. Since she explained that to me I have in fact used this metric to evaluate my relationships. I’ll admit the amount I believed what she told me was directly proportional to the healthiness of the relationship I was in at the time. If things didn’t fit the two items above, I just believed that her source was just too optimistic or spiritually centered, or sometimes, just plain crazy. However, in the back of my mind, I always knew that I was deceiving myself. (caution – “aww” moment approaching) Currently with Meg, I feel like we’re hitting both of these things. It sometimes appears as if I’m going backwards with the first point and that I don’t have more time, but I just have to think for a second to realize that I DO have more time, it’s just filled with more things that I previously didn’t do. We spend time together that I previously would have wasted away. The second point is completely obvious to me. The love I feel from Meg and I feel for Meg, fills me up past the brim and makes me feel more love for my “fellow man”. I think if I try to explain it any further I might muddy the waters so I’ll leave it there. Thanks for the metric, Cathy (I hope your family is hitting both points for you too.)
(If you have a problem with religion, turn back now.) Last Sunday at Mass we heard, my favorite Gospel.
John 13:34-35 (King James Version)
34 A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
35 By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
The Gospel reminded me of what I wrote above and I figured since I brought it up, I might as well reference it. It also leads me to my last point, “charity.” Never before being with Meg have I felt so inspired to do good things for other people with less than I have. Up to this point I haven’t been doing much about it, except being more polite (which I know doesn’t really count) but I’m working on it.
In my effort to be non-preachy, I feel like I’ve left some holes in this post, so if you want to know anything more, just ask.